that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and
female, and you can be also if you determine that it must be so.
This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. You must
decide that you will end this practice, and when you make that decision,
the problem will be greatly reduced at once.
But it must be more than a hope or a whish, more than knowing that it
is good for you. It must be actually a DECISION. If you truly make up
your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist
any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to
After you have made this decision, then observe the following specific
A Guide to Self-Control:
1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet
2. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in
this good company.
3. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem,
YOU MUST BREAK OFF THEIR FRIENDSHIP. Never associate with other people
having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together,
you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be
in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem
must be taken OUT OF YOUR MIND for that is where it really exists. Your
mind must be on other and more wholesome things.
4. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the
bath more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry
and dress AND THEN GET OUT OF THE BATHROOM into a room where you will
have some member of your family present.
5. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part,
dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch
your vital parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming
for you to remove those
clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing you would
have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation would leave
6. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, GET OUT
OF BED AND GO INTO THE KITCHEN AND FIX YOURSELF A SNACK, even if it is
in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite
your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that
you GET YOUR MIND ON SOMETHING ELSE. You are the subject of your thoughts,
so to speak.
7. Never read pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep
it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act."
The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to
remain in your mid. When you
accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act.
8. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good books
-- Church books -- Scriptures -- Sermons of the Brethern [sic, Cistern
too?]. Make a daily habit of reading at least one chapter of Scripture,
preferably from one of the four Gospels in the New Testament, or the Book
of Mormon. The four Gospels -- Matthew, Mark, Luke and John -- above anything
else in the Bible can be helpful because of their uplifting qualities.
9. Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem, for that will
tend to keep [it] in your mind more than ever. Pray for faith, pray for
understanding of the Scriptures, pray for the Missionaries, the General
Authorities, your friends, your families, BUT KEEP THE PROBLEM OUT OF
YOUR MIND BY NOT MENTIONING IT EVER -- NOT IN CONVERSATION WITH OTHERS,
NOT IN YOUR PRAYERS. KEEP IT OUT of your mind!
The attitude of a person toward his problem has an affect [sic] on how
easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made
to control the habit. As a person understands his reasons for the behavior,
and is sensitive to the conditions or situations that may trigger a desire
for the act, he develops the power to control it.
We are taught that our bodies are temples of God, and are to be clean
so that the Holy Ghost may dwell within us. Masturbation is a sinful habit
that robs one of the Spirit and creates guilt and emotional stress. It
is not physically harmful unless practiced in the extreme. It is a habit
that is totally self-centered, and secretive, and in no way expresses
the proper use of the procreative power given to man to fulfill eternal
purposes. It therefore separates a person from God and defeats the gospel
This self-gratifying activity will cause one to lose his self-respect
testimony becomes weak, and missionary work and other Church callings
become burdensome, offerins.
To help in planning an effective program to overcome the problem a brieation
is given of how the reproductive organs in a young man function.
The testes in your body are continually producing hundreds of millions
of reproductive cells call spermatozoa. These are
moved up a tube called the vas deferens to a place
called the ampulla where they are mixed with fluids
from two membranous pouches called seminal vesicles
and the prostate gland.
The resultant fluid is calleeminal vesicles are full a signa to the central
nervous system indicating they are ready to benother, depending
on such things exercise, state of health, etc. everal times a week, for
others It is normal for the vesicles to be emptied occasionally at night
durise the emptying come from the central nervous system. Often an erotic
dream is experienced at the same time, and is a part of this normal process.
instead ourse, the reproductive system is operating at a more rapid pace,
trying to keep up with the loss of semen. When he stops the habit, the
body will continue to produce ahis increased rate, for an indefese are
not harmful and are to be endured until the normal central nervous system
pathway of rel During this period of control several things can be done
to make the pr [...]
As one meets with his Priesthood Leader, a program for overcoming masturbation
can be implemented using some of t Remember it is essential that a regur
report program be agreed on, so progress can be recognized and failures
understood and eliminated.
1. Pray daily, ask for
the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you against temptation.
Pray fervently and out lout when the temptations are the strongest.
2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional
tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this
problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing.
3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell STOP
to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a
prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational hymn. It is important to
turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge.
4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, month, year
and finally commit to never doing it again. Until you commit yourself
to never again you will always be open to temptation.
5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed
self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control,
easily overcoming tempting situations.
6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan
to improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with
your family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn
to enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships
found in books such as "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
by Dale Carnegie.
8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely,
bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the
desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these
low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting
a friend, doing something athletic, etc.
9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you,
but show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the
day black. Your goal will be to have 'no black days'. The calendar becomes
a strong visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when
you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until
you have at least three clear months.
10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain
times and under certain conditions. Try and recall, in detail, what your
particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens,
plan to break the pattern through counter activities.
11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective
technique called aversion therapy. When
or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable,
but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel
out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful
with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example,
if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of
worms, and eat several of them as you do the act.
12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door
or shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy.
Take cool brief showers.
13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake, no matter
what time of day it is. Get up and do something. Start each day with an
14. Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids
15. Reduce the amount of
spices and condiments in your food. Eat as lightly as possible at night.
16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding.
17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might
create sexual excitement.
18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use in overcoming
this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night
has proven helpful in extreme cases.
19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed
frame with a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep
condition can be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several
layers of clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep.
20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be
a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach
a goal. Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing
reminder of your
21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns
which were part of your problem. _Satan Never Gives Up_. Be calmly and
confidently on guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this
fight! The joy and
strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant
and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.